Descoperă Povestea Mea și Ghidajul pe Drumul Autocunoașterii
I’m Ioana Simina Șerban
AMI-trained Montessori guide, Trained Demartini Method Facilitator, and emotional empowerment coach.
My journey with education began in Montessori classrooms—but it deepened through personal reflection and the search for clarity and emotional balance in my own life. Over time, I came to understand a simple, powerful truth:
To guide a child with presence and love, we must first guide ourselves.
A Journey from the Classroom to the Inner World
I’ve worked with children, families, educators, and school leaders. What I observed again and again was this:
even the most well-prepared environment can be disrupted by an adult’s unprocessed emotions.
That’s why I turned toward the inner environment of the adult. I became a Trained Demartini Method® Facilitator, integrating a scientific and practical approach to emotional transformation into my work.
As a Trained Demartini Method Facilitator, I use this profound tool to help adults bring clarity to their inner world—by transforming perceptions, dissolving emotional charges, and restoring balance.
Dr. John Demartini describes the method as:
“The Demartini Method®, developed by Dr. John Demartini, is a scientific process that balances perceptions and emotions.
This method is used professionally worldwide by psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, educators, teachers, consultants, and healthcare professionals.
The Demartini Method is a tool with a thousand applications for empowering and inspiring lives. Its uses include stress reduction, conflict resolution, and creating new perspectives and paradigms for life.”
In my work, I’ve found this method to be a powerful complement to the Montessori approach. Where Montessori offers a framework for guiding the child, the Demartini Method offers a framework for guiding the inner life of the adult, for supporting the spiritual journey of the adult.
Why Emotional Independence?
Emotional independence is the ability to recognize, regulate, and respond to emotions with clarity, consciousness, and alignment with your values—rather than reacting from past wounds, unconscious patterns, or fear.
It’s not about becoming detached from emotions.
It’s about no longer being ruled by them.
In Montessori education, we speak often about the child’s growing independence—physical, intellectual, economic.
But what about our own independence, as adults?
Dr. Maria Montessori said:
“The greatest sign of success for a teacher is to be able to say, ‘The children are now working as if I did not exist.’”
True independence in the child requires a deeply independent adult—an adult who is not emotionally dependent on the child’s performance, obedience, or emotional state to guide this child.
That’s why emotional independence is our responsibility as mature adults. Without it, we unconsciously:
- project our fears onto the child
- overstep their developmentally appropriate struggles
- confuse support with control
But when we cultivate emotional independence, we’re able to:
- see the child clearly, as they are—not as we wish or fear them to be
- hold space for their emotions, without suppressing or absorbing them
- respond with wisdom, not reflex
- mirror calmness in moments of dysregulation
- become a steady reference point, rather than a fluctuating one
- and most importantly, stay grounded in who we are, even in the face of uncertainty, conflict, or fatigue
This inner clarity protects us from burnout, helps us respect our own limits, and empowers us to lead with compassion—without self-sacrifice.
When the adult becomes emotionally free, the child becomes truly independent.
Supporting the Child’s Greatest Potential
Dr. Maria Montessori reminds us:
“It is not enough for the teacher to love the child. She must first love and cultivate herself.”
And it’s true—because the child’s greatest potential doesn’t unfold through instruction, but through observation, trust, and emotional containment.
Emotional independence allows us to:
- mirror calmness in moments of dysregulation
- trust the child’s developmental process, even when it’s messy
- guide without controlling
- become a steady reference point, rather than a fluctuating one
- and stay connected to ourselves—honoring our own needs, limits, and values along the way
It helps us protect our energy, avoid burnout, and show up authentically—not as perfect adults, but as emotionally present human beings.
When we are at peace with who we are, we no longer depend on external validation or constant effort to prove our worth.
Instead, we guide from a place of inner clarity, self-respect, and sustainable presence. This is when we truly follow the child.
My Mission
To lay the foundation for emotionally empowered future generations by supporting the adults in their lives—guides, educators, parents, and leaders—cultivate emotional independence, self-awareness, and conscious leadership.
Because when the adult becomes emotionally independent, the child becomes truly free to unfold their greatest potential.
Let’s Walk This Journey Together
Whether you’re a Montessori guide seeking clarity, a school leader navigating complexity, or an association ready to create deeper transformation in your community—I’m here to support you.
Together, we can bring more balance, meaning, and presence into the environments we create—for ourselves and for the children we serve.